Grief and Difficult Days

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Some days are really hard.

This is one of those days.

Today came out of the blue, unexpectedly, for no reason really.

Though if I had to think of one, it might be related to the fact that around this time of year is my birthday. My birthday brings up memories of past birthdays and of things that are no more.

When milestones like this come around, they are sometimes in such stark contrast to the past that the sadness can almost feel too much to bear.

It can feel crushing and overwhelming all at once. It is an odd feeling after so many months of feeling at peace.

When I feel this way it reminds me of how hard it is to really live with grief. Nothing is ever the same. Life is such a difficult, painful journey sometimes. It can bring such highs but also such lows. It can bring love but also this love is mixed with sorrow and suffering.

It is a huge accomplishment to be alive. It can be so hard to persist and to continue putting one foot in front of the other after losing someone you love. Yet somehow I am still here. It is this acknowledgement that fills me with a sense of purpose, which in turn gives me hope.

Have you had days like this? What have your experiences been with milestones or sad days like this? What helps you get through them?

Dear readers — thank you for reading this post. it means so much to me. If you enjoyed it, I invite you to connect with me through the comments below and to share the post with someone who you think might also find it helpful in living with grief. You might also find my book, Grieving the Loss of a Love: How to Embrace Grief to Find True Hope and Healing After a Divorce, Breakup, or Death helpful to read or to pass along to others. Thank you again.

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